19 // she her

twilightisgay:

this pride month i want to give a special shoutout to those women (including trans and nb women) who are engaged in the never-ending “am i bi or a lesbian” debate with themselves, because i feel like we don’t talk about these women who are struggling nearly as much as we should.  this questioning process really sucks, and once you start asking yourself that question it never really goes away.  it can be super isolating to be a questioning woman who doesn’t know if she is bi or a lesbian, even in environments like tumblr where it is possible to surround ourselves with other wlw.  the amount of things we worry about even in these communities are literally endless—whether reblogging posts about lesbian-specific or bi-specific experiences is a form of deception, whether we should re-come out to the people we’re already “out” to (or how to really come out at all), how much comphet is affecting us and how to let it go, etc.  constantly questioning where we belong within the lgbt community is one of the most difficult things to deal with in the self-realization and coming out process, and i want all my questioning women out there to know that it’s okay if you don’t know exactly who you are right now.  it’s okay if you want to define yourself solely by your attraction to women or disregard your attraction to men.  we’ve all been in that spot at some point, and i wish you all luck on your journeys of becoming who you are, whether that is as a lesbian, a bi woman, or really anything else.